How the lack of communication keeps you from success
Bad communication or lack there off has been a problem I can bet most if not all of you have experienced. We have all been in that awkward spot were one person told you one thing but come to find out it has been one big misunderstanding this whole time. Sometimes we find a deep lack of communication between us and our partner leading to argument after argument or maybe the communication at your work is completely obsolete leaving you frustrated as you try and fix everyone else’s mistakes. Other times we are the ones struggling to communicate due to the fear of being judged or even just being afraid to own up to our own mistakes. You often hear every relationship coach online saying how communication is key to make things work and while that is true it doesn’t help with the fact that communication can be a struggle. Maybe you have been single for a long time so communication doesn’t come naturally or maybe you made a mistake and by not saying something right away it becomes this snowball affect and you feel that there is just no way to fix it. Either way it is true that communication is extremely important, not just in personnel relationships but also in every aspect of our lives. Often times it seems that people forget that they rely heavily on each other but for how much we need each other it seems like we always struggle to communicate with one another. While communication can be hard I hope to show you the benefits of mastering the skill of communication as learning this skill can help you in many aspects of your life.
I Don’t Wanna Talk About It!
Often times the lack of communication can start off pretty innocently. Maybe you don’t tell your friend what you really think of her outfit because you don’t want to hurt her feelings or maybe you have been struggling to find the right time or place to bring up a topic with your significant other. Although in our heads we can justify our own actions often times down the road not saying things even if we think they are small can turn into a snowball effect. Maybe someone at work made an innocent mistake but by not telling anyone later down the line now multiple people are in trouble for something that should have been a way smaller deal. It can be hard to communicate though, it feels like everywhere we go we are constantly being judged or made to perform in a certain way to please others. What will people think of you for thinking those things or saying those words or doing that action? It can be easy to write things off as well, maybe you didn’t tell your partner that you had a bag of chips after you both agreed to go on a diet. While the action might be small things like lies often start out that way and while not every miscommunication is due to a lie often times we tell small white lies or don’t say anything at all because we are afraid of the disappointment that might come from the other person. While it is never fun to admit when your wrong learning to do so is essential to being a good communicator because at the end of the day we are human, we all say things we don’t mean, forget to tell someone something, or just don’t know what to do in the first place.
Why I Need You <3
Life is so distracting these day, we are always worried about something, money, relationships, work. Often times it feels like there is no one to listen to us, in fact nowadays many are turning to Ai to seek that human connection we so deeply crave. Another reason it can be hard to communicate is a lack of energy. Maybe you put yourself out there again, and again, and again to no avail. You almost start to feel like your words have no weight to them so why even bother wasting the time to say anything at all. As someone who has always been labeled the quiet one I can understand this a lot. Often times I struggled to talk to people because it felt like no one really cared about me or what I had to say. Often times my opinions would get ignored or my feelings would be taken for granted. Many times when I tried to talk to people it felt like they were to self-absorbed to see past their own shadow. So why do I bother talking when my words feel empty? I found that a lot of problems I was facing in my personnel life are issues that many of my friends had also been feeling. We had all be silently suffering when in reality we had all been feeling the same way. Even if you don’t have a good support system there are many forums, blogs, and Tik Tok’s where people just go to vent and find other’s who are going through the same thing you are. We are all struggling in times like these were many of us feel like we will never own anything and are stuck trying to make the best of life. Learning to be honest with people can be such a freeing experience because often times people you respect can level with you and even relate to you. It also takes off a layer of anxiety, something I used to feel so frequently before I realized none of us are perfect. The reality of it is we are all connected in one way or another, I need the grocery store worker to buy my food, the grocery store worker needs the farmers to grow the crops to have a job, the farmers need technician’s to fix their equipment to continue to farm, and so on, the chain is endless.
Start Now!
Whether you are dealing with people who struggle to communicate or you yourself are the person who has trouble communicating now is the time to work things out. Be clear with people on what you need to be successful but be understanding and willing to hear them out as well. People aren’t mind readers as much as we wish they were so if you aren’t telling the person what you need or want how are they to help you? If you make a mistake don’t be afraid to speak up, it is hard but it saves so much heartache and stress to bite the bullet ahead of time. Don’t give it time to fester or to come up with an excuse, be honest and even if the outcome isn’t what you hoped for own up to your mistake and learn how to go from there and learn how you can fix your mistake so that it doesn’t happen again. Take the time to listen to people, I know we are busy and our own lives are already so hectic but sometimes that talk you had with your friend truly means the world to them and makes them feel like someone is finally listening or sometimes taking those 5 extra minutes minutes of self-reflection can help you figure out what is it is that you want and how to get it. While communication will always been something we all have to work on, starting sooner rather than later will help you in every aspect of your life. Being confident and clear may help you get that job, taking a step back and listening may help bring you and your partner closer, and being honest with others can save you from future awkward encounters. We are not perfect but by admitting that you are already on your way to becoming a better communicator and with that being said I sincerely hope you all enjoyed today’s writings. If you did feel free to like and even subscribe and always feel free to share your thoughts in the comments below!
With love, Veronica Fox
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